5. How do I help my child be a good party host?
This is a very big one, and it comes down to what age of course…
First up is us, the parents. Get super organised and avoid stressful situations before the party. I know easier said than done because there are often last-minute hick ups. I suggest hosting a party on a separate day than to the actual birthday date. Honestly your child wants nothing more than your presence and watching them opening their presents and to play with them. Sharing that precious morning without rushing around is beautiful.
For little ones (1) just tell them a day/the night before that it is their birthday party tomorrow and that lots of people will come and celebrate with you. They might not understand fully but it is important to include them. List names and what will happen, where you are going…etc. For the toddlers you can start mentioning the party a couple of days beforehand. Tell them in as much detail as possible in what will happen. Choose an outfit together, talk about what games you have planned…
For 4-year-olds and up, plan the party with your child. Let them choose their theme, let them choose their favourite party games, food, drinks. Make them part of it. Create a party planner together. Tune in if you have an extrovert or introvert as a child. Listen to who they want to invite and respect their wishes.
Tense situations, like sharing and presents and outfits:
Remind your child they will need to share toys (home party) for just that brief period. Discuss presents. Are you opening them at the party. Are they going to be put away until after all the guests have left? This will help minimize meltdowns.
Be prepared that they do not want to change outfits and do not want to play along at all. It can be just too much. Give them time and your guests will find entertainment whilst your child is getting used to the crowd.
6. Do I need to do goodie bags and thank you notes?
This can be a challenging one, yes but really no, if you feel like it is against your values. If you are offering an activity, like make your own fairy garden, that is enough of a Thank You. Kids are expecting bags and they will ask you for it. It has become the norm unfortunately. I would suggest that a themed cookie or cupcake for home would be a nice goodie bag. I always suggest books, gemstones, metal cars, seeds, sensory dough. Something that does not break and does not hurt the environment.
